The new year swiftly approaches. It’s a big one for me. In 2010, I will turn 40, a prime opportunity for a little self-evaluation. This could be traumatic. Or not. Perhaps it depends on my perspective. I didn’t notice 30 at all because I was pregnant. For some reason, passing 35 made me a little anxious. I found that odd because I don’t place much value on chronological age. So, instead of New Year’s resolutions, I’m setting goals that will help me be more satisfied with who I am when I turn 40 in May.
Goal #1 – I will reclaim my identity as a writer.
I have a completed first draft of a novel and four other partial drafts. The complete draft is currently undergoing a total rewrite including a change of narrative voice. Progress has been slow but steady, and I’m satisfied with it. I am mentally playing with another idea, but it needs more stewing time before I can do anything with it. This one will be an opportunity to try some new planning techniques. Planning and organization are things I need more of in my writing life. Two or three of the other drafts will get my attention next. Though I don’t believe they are saleable, they have value in that I can use them to hone the craft. I like these stories and want to complete them for my own satisfaction. Those million bad words have to go somewhere. I also must work to connect with other writers for critiquing. It’s past time to take that step. Also, I will work on blogging more consistently. If I succeed with my other writing goals, at least I may have something to write about.
Goal #2 – I will reclaim my identity as a musician.
Specifically, I will return to my choirs. Family medical issues have kept me away for 18 months. The music does my muse and my spirit good. Last week I just sang in my first concert in far too long. It was a euphoric experience. Perhaps the singing regularly will help me retrieve my high notes from the last remnants of the swine flu.
Goal #3 – I will reclaim my identity as a runner.
Actually, I’ve been working on this one more or less since August. What is required, is more commitment. I ran in high school. Badly. Very badly. I was the person who came in last. I made peace with that a long time ago. Exercise-induced asthma does force some limitations. Nonetheless, I liked how I felt physically when I was a runner, and I liked how I felt about myself. I need to do this for my physical health as well as my mental health. And when else am I going to find time to listen to podcasts? There are a bunch I need to catch up with before Balticon.
Goal #4 – I will be more organized with the house and the finances and my schoolwork and…
My plate is so full that I’m grateful it isn’t made of paper. My life would be all over the floor. I’m adapting some of the wisdom of Flylady. I’m back to taking baby steps. Everything can be done with baby steps. It’s working for my rewrite. My house is already looking cleaner. The bills are getting paid. I am changing the monologue in my head. No longer am I beating myself up for my very real failing, but I’m encouraging myself to be the person I want to be. It goes like this: “I like when I am the person that ___.” Then I go do that thing that I otherwise might have shrugged off. Then I feel good about myself. Stupidly simple but progress builds upon itself. There you have it, my approach to change. I’m not waiting for January first to start. Tomorrow, if the Girlie goes to school, I will go for my run. If she stays home sick, then I will get on the exercise bike. It’s been lonely, I think. I’ll have the opportunity to read some more of Mur Lafferty’s Playing For Keeps. I will make time to work on the rewrite. I will spend some time on my schoolwork. But that’s tomorrow. Right now, I have to go reboot the laundry.